Why visiting one's ageing mother is not enough: on filial duties to prevent and alleviate parental loneliness.

Bouke de Vries
Author Information
  1. Bouke de Vries: Department of Historical, Philosophical and Religious Studies, Umeå University, Umeå, Sweden. bouke.devries@umu.se. ORCID

Abstract

As people grow old, many risk becoming chronically lonely which is associated with e.g. depression, dementia, and increased mortality. Whoever else should help to protect them from this risk, various philosophers have argued that any children that they might have will often be among them. Proceeding on this assumption, this article considers what filial duties to protect ageing parents from loneliness consist of, or might consist of. I develop my answer by showing that a view that may be intuitively plausible, namely that they simply require children to visit their ageing parents regularly when they can do so at reasonable cost and call, text, and/or email them from time to time, is defective in three respects. First, it ignores children's potential responsibilities to encourage and/or facilitate social interaction between their parents and third parties. Second, it ignores their potential responsibilities to help provide their parents with non-human companionship. Third, it elides over their duties to coordinate their efforts to offer loneliness protection with others. What I end up proposing instead, then, is an approach for protecting ageing parents from loneliness that is multi-faceted.

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Grants

  1. 2018-00679/Vetenskapsrådet

MeSH Term

Aging
Female
Humans
Interpersonal Relations
Loneliness
Mothers
Parents

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